by Smitten Kitten

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The right kind of music can help you lighten up and set you in the right mood. So, if you’re feeling a bit nervous and edgy, just put on some sexy music that will help you focus.

1. Talk dirty
The sudden transformation from demure diva to saucy sex kitten will not only be awkward for you, but for him as well. So to avoid the shock and awkwardness, start by talking dirty. It’s a great way to test waters and find out more about his fantasies.

2. Play safe
Kinky sex can be a little too much to take sometimes, physically and emotionally. So, besides being 100 per cent sure about it, you have to make sure you do it with someone you completely trust. If there’s bondage and struggles involved, then make sure you don’t go overboard. Don’t forget to keep codes, which you can use when you think things are getting out of hand.

3. Blinding love
Blindfolds are a good option for beginners as they are not as naughty as handcuffs and gags. And since you are not able to see, it helps drop inhibitions. If you’re blindfolding him, start by lightly scratching, licking and kissing in unexpected places to build the element of surprise.

4. Start light
Before you move on to kinkier things like ropes and whips, keep things simple with padded handcuffs and blindfolds. Only when you’re really comfortable with kinky sex, move on from gentle to hardcore.

5. Dress up!
Kinky is not limited to only sex toys and kinky items; you can bring some fun and style to your bedroom with feathers, masks, latex, garters and high heels. Be creative and unique. You can ask him about his fantasies and try incorporating them in the bedroom.

6. No pain, no gain
A little pain during sex can cause a lot of pleasure. It doesn’t have to be hard spankings from Christian Grey, but a light nibble on the nipple or a single spank at the right moment, and a little bit of biting and hair-pulling can totally turn things on.

7. Music is my aeroplane
The right kind of music can help you lighten up and set you in the right mood. So, if you’re feeling a bit nervous and edgy, just put on some sexy music that will help you focus. Note: Not everyone enjoys music during sex, some people find it distracting. If you feel music is ruining the moment, shut it off immediately.

8. Tie up
If you and your guy are new to bondage, don’t freak him out by suddenly removing the handcuffs. Seductively get on top of him and slowly whisper that you like having him at your mercy, and then slowly bind his hands in the sexiest manner.

9. Naughty and nice
If you’re being the dominant one, start by playing sweet and sensual. Incorporate a lot of kissing and caressing. It can be quite a turn on to be handled with so much love in a kinky setup. As things start to heat up, show him your bad side.

10. The waiting game
What makes kinky sex so intense is the aspect of withholding pleasure from your partner. If he’s tied up, build up the tease by slowly stripping in front of him and letting him watch you touch yourself. That will drive him crazy as he can’t do anything about it.

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