6 dos and don’ts of dating

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So you’re back on the scene after a long committed relationship. The last thing you want is to get serious right away. Dating more than one person is something you’re considering, or already started and you want to make sure  no one gets hurt.

These 6 Dos and Don’ts won’t guarantee interactions free of heart break. But, they will help you navigate the complicated world of dating multiple people. Let’s start with the Dos first.

Do

1: Consider the benefits

If you’re recently divorced, or have been in a long-term relationship, you might need to dust yourself off, and discover the scene. Dating more than one person can help you get out of your typical comfort zone. Furthermore, you’re learning what qualities you’re looking for this time around. There’s no rule saying that you have to date the same kinds of people that you’ve always dated. Branching out is a good thing.

2: Be just the right amount of honest

You don’t want to lead someone on and make them think that you want more than they do. That’s why it’s great that you’re being honest about dating multiple people. This gives your potential partner a clear sense that you’re commitment-free right now. But you don’t need to give specific details of dates you went on, or even the names of someone else that you’re dating. That’s just awkward.

3: Ask yourself the right questions

Before you embark the on the journey that is modern dating, ask yourself important questions. Perhaps you need to understand why you’re unable to commit to one person? Don’t judge yourself negatively because you don’t want to commit. Just know in order to be comfortable in your stance and comfortable with your decisions. If it feels wrong, maybe it is. Or vice versa.

Don’t

1: Tease

If you’ve started to date a couple of people simultaneously and realize that someone is getting attached, it may be time to call it off. While they may or may not know about your dating status, it’s best to nip something in the bud if it starts to become more than what was already arranged. Be up front with your dating goals and expectations before you get involved with someone.

2: Think you’re invisible

There’s a chance that you may run into someone your dating when you’re on a date with someone else. If you haven’t been up front about what you’re looking for, that’s your personal choice. But, don’t be surprised if you damage both or all of the relationships in the process. Honesty is the best policy.

3: Lead people on

Do you find yourself constantly thinking about one of the people you’re dating? Or always calling them when something important happens? Maybe you’ve actually met the one. Chances are, you might be spending less time with your other suitors anyway. But have the important end game conversation, and don’t drag it out. It’s disrespectful to the person you’re into, and to the people who might be into you.

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