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I am not here to tell you what to do… I don’t have all the answers. I just wouldn’t bash my neighbor for his or her sexuality… before God and man after all, I am not without guilt.

Most Nigerians today can’t imagine lesbians and homosexuals. It is like: what do they look like? Which families have them? Most of us know no lesbian or homosexual, yet somehow, most of us find them threatening. Yes, true.

I see all the disparaging stuffs written to crucify gay relationships. In fact, if you want to  insult someone terribly, call him/her – gay. “He is a gay”…with the definite “a”- It is to describe a pariah.

In our places of worship, it is a sin that eternally damns the soul. A close relative of mine told me that “gay” is a cult people entered into to get power (Funny? I didn’t laugh).

Suggestions on treatment include: whipping, deliverance, isolation, threats, jail term… even death. But, what really threatens us about the gay community? My friend, Chidi said it was because there wouldn’t be enough men to go round for the ladies if they were busy loving themselves. Another friend, Osita on the other hand, vehemently said it was an insult for women to be doing for other women, the job assigned to the men-folk.

I am not a crusader for gay rights but only a respecter of people’s choices. More than once, I have heard true life stories of gay Nigerians who married the opposite sex and couldn’t have a good relationship with their spouse. I wouldn’t want to be in that home.

I have looked around at the people who crucify the gay community – they claim to either be religious, culture-defendants or human (biology) anatomy ‘students’. I find them all not satisfactory. Your body is your body, why tell me what to do with mine? You can’t even pull off your clothes in front of me to just look at you. So, why should  I direct what you do with that body and vice-versa?

The religious folks say that this is abominable… shouldn’t God be the judge? Are you done preaching the message of hope and salvation that you are now preaching the message of damnation and hate? You know, I am the first person to say that am a Jesus lover and if not Jesus, there’s no one else I would ever bow to but then, am certain that there are: A) People who do not accept this belief. B) Those who do not subscribe to any religious group or even the belief in a higher power.

For people like these for instance, who are lesbians or homosexuals, why use the Bible in condemnation? Would that bring them any closer at seeing your point of view?

Asked why she never joined any anti-war demonstrations, Mother Theresa said, “I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there”. She understood which sadly, many of us do not, that  you can’t combat anything successfully, in the same way it comes to you. You can’t curb violence with violence. Gandhi didn’t need violence to lead over 400 million Indians to independence… you just don’t need hate to heal anyone.

The politician embezzles from millions who suffer helplessly. The policeman rapes little children. The robber blatantly takes from those suffering as much as he does – why do they all still join together to tear down the gay community?

Understand this, I wouldn’t choose – on purpose… just for lust… or whatever other retarded excuses most gay bashers use as defense; a sexual orientation that would only hurt, isolate and demean me as a vile human being. If you can, there’re legions of humans (gays) out there who can’t…

Need more proof? What about the fact that there are genes which show that the homosexual orientation is genetic? Scientific researchers specializing in human sexuality have repeatedly shown that homosexuality is genetic.

Scientific research publications from October 2004 and June 2008 stated that scientists have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men. This fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men, and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation.

A 2005 study reported genetic scans showing a clustering of the same genetic pattern among gay men on three chromosomes – chromosomes 7, 8, and 10. The regions on chromosome 7 and 8 were associated with male sexual orientation regardless of whether the man got them from his mother or father. The regions on chromosome 10 were only associated with male sexual orientation if they were inherited from the mother.

A study from 2006 said that researchers have known for years that a man’s likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers, but the new study found that the so-called “fraternal birth order effect” persists even if gay men were raised away from their biological families. Anthony F. Bogaert, Ph.D., professor at Brock University, said: “The research suggests that the development of sexual orientation is influenced before birth.”
The older-brother effect was constant regardless of whether the men were raised with natural, adopted or stepbrothers. It also didn’t matter if they weren’t raised with their biological mothers. If gay younger brothers and older brothers don’t have the same home environments, what do they have in common? “They shared the same uterus, the same womb, the same mother,” Bogaert said.

I am not here to tell you what to do… I don’t have all the answers. I just wouldn’t bash my neighbor for his or her sexuality… before God and man after all, I am not without guilt. My guilt(s) can’t be any lesser in comparison to theirs now, can it? Have I judged myself with the same standards I use in judging that gay person? Am I a hundred percent certain that that gay person in demonic and needing to be set straight? Let’s all think through this for a moment.

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