Most ladies are quick to say all a guy wants is to get between their legs but he’ll go through the long route of professing love that is untrue…

Depending on whoever is asking me to define love, I have just two definitions. To the ‘very’ Christian, I simply say “God is love”. To the ‘not so’ Christian, I define it as “the feeling you feel, when you feel a feeling like a feeling you’ve never felt before”. I’m sure you get the gist- I am in no way about to define, explain or discuss what love is, in this article.

This topic was influenced by a couple of things but basically, it’s all about boy-girl relationship. The various methods and approaches to it. Let me not bore you with a lengthy preamble. Ladies, will you prefer a guy tells you directly, straight-faced, that he wants just sex from you?

I’d like to share the stories of two female friends of mine; these stories actually prompted this write-up. Debbie told me about a Christian brother in her campus fellowship who was asking her out. During a dinner date, he reminded her of a movie “Think like a man, act like a lady” (I think I’ve mixed the title up), a particular scene where the guy goes to apologise to the lady and he tells her it was all about sex at first but now emotions are involved. He wants both her love and the sex, he’s all strung up. Emeka (the dude asking Debbie out) now juxtaposes it with their current situation; he wants her not for her body alone but for both her heart and body, meaning he’d like sex to be part of their relationship when she agrees to date him. Now Debbie is telling how he’s supposed to be a Christian brother, spirit-filled, etc. My question to her was, “Would you have preferred he left out the sex part, asks you out as a Christian brother, then slowly but surely gets you to sleep with him?”

Nadia also shared a story of a former colleague of hers, Sola, who she bumped into at a mall about a month after she left her former place of work. While she was working there, she and Sola only used to exchange pleasantries and that’s all. Seeing each other at the mall, they engaged in little chit-chat and he told her of how he admired her body and would love to get down with her. She said she was shocked at first but maintained a straight face, laughed and replied “why not”. Two weeks later, ‘erm erm erm’

Most ladies are quick to say all a guy wants is to get between their legs but he’ll go through the long route of professing love that is untrue, they would say we are liars and call the action unfair. Some would say they’d prefer we come out straight and say something like “I like you, your figure et al. Let’s get naughty,” rather than going through the long process of wooing, just to taste of the honeypot and take off.

So, my dear beautiful ladies, what would you have us do? Guys, is the time ripe to change from the age-long tradition of using sweet nothings to all the good stuff?

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Hounge is a polyglot, savvy, cosmopolitan, and eccentric. He blogs at www.hounge.wordpress.com

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