These methods require you to do things in a very subtle way, so that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t entirely realize what you’re doing… but in the end, they’ll put her back in your arms.
If you were already working toward getting back together with an ex girlfriend, learning that she’s dating again can be devastating. While most guys do give up at this point, your chances of getting back with her are far from over. If you’re willing to be patient, think positive, and put in some quality effort? You can actually use your ex girlfriend’s new romance to launch yourself back into her life, getting her to break up with or forget her new boyfriend and start dating you again.
Step 1 – Let go of your ex-girlfriend
Before you begin taking steps closer to your ex’s heart again, you first have to let her go. While this might hurt, it’s just temporary. If it helps, keep reminding yourself that you are working toward getting her back, and letting go of her is an important part of that plan. Getting your ex girlfriend back from another man isn’t something that happens overnight. By not fighting the break up, you’re refusing to battle with her decision to end things with you. By not running off to stop her from dating this new guy, you’re showing a level of pride and maturity. Anything you could say at this point wouldn’t work anyway, so don’t say anything. You don’t want to come off as needy, jealous, or anything like that – this will hurt your chances of getting your ex back.
Step 2 – Drop back for a while
Leave your girlfriend utterly and completely alone during the honeymoon stages of her relationship. Don’t call her, text her, email her, or try to run into her either. Don’t acknowledge her new boyfriend, and don’t respond to any calls or messages from her. This step of the process requires putting yourself back in her head, and you can’t do that if you’re in constant contact with her. By disappearing off her social map, your ex will wonder where you are, what you’re doing, and whether or not you’re thinking about her. Not seeing you will actually make your ex miss you – and this is an important part of winning back her heart.
Step 3 – Focus on yourself
Now that you have some extra free time, use it in the most positive manner possible. By working on yourself, you can make yourself look, feel, and even act better… do it right, and your ex will be astonished by the new you the next time she sees you. Go to the gym, take up running… when you start doing all new things you end up meeting new people. The exercise will help you sweat off any residual feelings of hopeless and despair over losing your girlfriend, and all that stuff will be replaced with positive energy. When you’re fit and toned, run out and get some new clothes. A huge part of attracting your girlfriend is physically making yourself desirable to her, but also mentally having the confidence that all girls love.
Step 4 – Wait out her break up
Most rebound relationships last little more than a month. This is great news for you, because if your ex jumped right into this new romance there’s a good chance she’s in a rebound relationship. And want some more good news? The fact that your ex started dating another guy again so quickly after dumping you results in her burying her feelings for you instead of dealing with and getting over them. This means that somewhere beneath the surface of her heart, there’s a lot of love still left for you. Finding that love and gently tugging on it can bring it back out into the open, causing your exgirlfriend to think about you, miss you, and want to be with you again.
As much as it hurts to watch your ex with another guy, try to concentrate on the big picture. In the long run, you’ll be the one standing next to her. There’s not much you can do right now, so don’t blow things by trying to talk her out of dating her new boyfriend, bad mouthing him, or any of that jealous boyfriend stuff. Stick it out, and wait for the rebound relationship to invariably fail.
Step 5 – Pick Her Up When She Falls
When a rebound relationship breaks up, more often than not it’s the girl who gets hurt. When your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend, she’s probably treating the romance as a solid, concrete thing. When it shatters? You’ll need to be there to help pick up the pieces of her broken relationship. She’ll be looking for someone familiar and safe – and that’s you. Your ex will find comfort in meeting, talking to, and being in your arms again after a bad rebound, so be prepared to play that role.
Another huge advantage: your ex-girlfriend still has feelings of love for you. She had little or no time to resolve your break up, because she jumped right into another relationship. This is where you’ll draw out those emotions and use them to win her back.
What if her new relationship doesn’t break up? How can I get her back?
Occasionally, a rebound relationship will stick for some time. If this is the case, you’ll need to learn an alternative strategy to getting your ex back from another man. There are some very unique ways you can insert yourself between your ex and her new boyfriend, and then slowly win her back from this new guy. They take patience and effort, but they’re also guaranteed to work. These methods require you to do things in a very subtle way, so that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t entirely realize what you’re doing… but in the end, they’ll put her back in your arms.
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