Sex is NOT a creation, it is an act. Sex is an act as much as corruption is an act, will you therefore say that God ‘made’ corruption?
I deem it especially necessary to make a few things clear as regards the content below, please pay particular attention and try not to assume that you have absolute understanding of my state of mind and/or inclination. I believe in God and I favour the concept of marriage, where a man clings to a woman and loves her like Christ loves the Church. I also stand for purity.
I have said this before, and I am saying it again; God does not make husbands or wives, God makes men and women. I fear that I might get too philosophical, may be even blasphemous if I delve as deep as I would love to about this matter. The concept of ‘marriage’ has in my opinion become over-rated. I would have said wedding, which is actually the typical reality that we mostly mistake for marriage.
We refer to sex too many times as a ‘creation’, for example when we say “God ‘made’ sex for marriage.” Permit me to indulge here a bit please- if God made sex for ‘marriage’, it therefore implies that God made marriage and that he made it for a particular reason(s), as the case may be, right? Sex is NOT a creation, it is an act. Sex is an act as much as corruption is an act, will you therefore say that God ‘made’ corruption?
Let us not be naïve, marriage even according to the Bible is not the ultimate (1st Corinthians 7), verse 9 of that passage says, “But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” Why then do we exalt it exceedingly? Because it is the easier option? And then we unconsciously or consciously propagate this opinion with annoying condescension; like whoever is not in concurrence with the opinion is a lesser being or is damned and doomed for all of eternity.
Some people just have sex; some fall in love, have sex, and then get married and continue having sex; some others fall in love, get married and then begin having sex. I find it unnecessary to state what category I fall under, but what I will say is if you do not know exactly WHY you are under a particular category, your ignorance does not preserve you from whatever ill or provide you with whatever blessing is associated with either category. Understanding is the key. The bible makes it clear that ‘those who worship God worship Him in “truth” and in spirit’, emphasis mine.
The goal of life, or Christian life if you may, is to ‘know’ God, to love God and to worship Him till you are united with Him in Heaven. Mark my words, NO ONE can claim superiority of understanding on this matter, not the Pope, not the Archbishop of Canterbury, not your local pastor, and most certainly not me; hence, I would appreciate if we all just live life the best way we can, get along as much as we can, and hope as much as we want; till the end meets us and our questions will be answered without anyone left in doubt or confusion.
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Iweka Kingsley is a freelance writer and PR/media consultant. He works as a full-time writer with CP-Africa, a platform that celebrates progress across Africa. He is currently working on his second book, a novel titled ‘Reflections of Sunshine’. He blogs at www.iamscopeman.wordpress.com and tweets from @IwekaKingsley.
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@ rich if you read the comments carefully you would have observed that nobody is judging. We are simply pointing out the inconsistencies in the author's argument.
As for your comment, look up "Tu quoque". You should remember the fallacy from the logic course u took in ur freshman year at college. Grace and peace.
LMAO! @chichi destiny's have been lost in 1 night stands???? Pls pls every1 here shud stop being hypocrites,every1 sins buh we choose d sins 2 judge? Please…. No1 here is clean so stop being self righteous. Ppl wud do everythin sexual aside actually doin it and d person is deemed a virgin? Who sed even kissing sum1 ur not married 2 isn't sinful? Pastors be using heads 4 rituals and stuff yet ppl choose 2 judge sex more. Y'll need hobbies Abeg live ur life in all truth and honesty till d end meets us
Abeg o…sex is for marriage and if you are not married do not have sex!!! It's in the bible, sex is more than what people think, it is exchange of virtue, so many things go on in the spirit that we don't know about, so many destinies have been lost in One night stands…I'll probably get condemed for this but the truth is the truth and befor God and man I have told you the truth not the double sided view of this author..brother you must either be hot or cold!! Choose now who you will follow eyeh..
@ Jo high five!
@ Kingsley you cannot hold both positions at the same time. That's the point. Its the law of non-contradiction. If you mentally assent to a worldview and in the same breath prescribe a course of action in direct opposition to same worldview, then you probably don't really subscribe to it, you know. Or maybe you misunderstand it. Grace and peace bro.
And this is my take on …. marriage belongs in the museum
marriage…… .http://lightblessforever.blogspot.com/2012/09/marriage-belongs-in-museum_8008.html
@Toki & JO, I guess I made it easy for you to come to such conclusions, that's fine. However, may I refer you to the very first paragraph of this post: "I deem it especially necessary to make a few things clear as regards the content below, please pay particular attention and try not to assume that you have absolute understanding of my state of mind and/or inclination. I believe in God and I favour the concept of marriage, where a man clings to a woman and loves her like Christ loves the Church. I also stand for purity."
Thanks you toki! Thank you!!
Kingsley, we know what you're trying to say, even though obviously even your fingers refuse to type them because your head and spirit knows there's something wrong somewhere.
I am tired of Christians nowadays trying to rewrite the bible to suit their wants, if you claim to be a christian, and you are having sex with your gf while not married, it is a sin, plain and simple. Put it anyhow you like, even if nobody condemns you the Word condemns you, please stop saying stuff like "…The goal of life, or Christian life if you may, is to ‘know’ God, to love God and to worship Him till you are united with Him in Heaven. Mark my words, NO ONE can claim superiority of understanding on this matter, not the Pope, not the Archbishop of Canterbury, not your local pastor, and most certainly not me…" to assuage your guilt, biko.
If you are a Christian, and you have chosen to live your life by Christ's laws and precepts, please discipline yourself and stop trying to explain your "errors".
We're all human, nobody is perfect, so if you fall and ask for forgiveness noyou're not condemned, as long as you realize you're wrong, if you choose to find an excuse, even when you are wrong (Saul's story 1sam 15: 12-19) then you're OYO
If that is the case I must say you did not do a good job of presenting your argument.
Yes Sex, like corruption, is an act. However,that is where the equivalency ends. corruption is a 'corruption' (pardon the pun) of a good trait: self preservation, ambition or what have you. A better comparison would have been comparing unmarried sex (yes, I said it) with corruption.
It is obvious God designed sex. The devil didn't stick a penis to Adam behind God's back. But, like everything else, there is a correct way to do it.
The bible makes it abundantly clear that sex outside the confines of marriage is a sin. If you don't subscribe to that worldview, well and good. But moral relativity is alien to the scriptures. I like the way you framed your statement: "I believe in God." I strongly doubt, however, that it is the God of the bible.
When I wrote this piece it was in response to several comments on a particular blog post: http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2012/06/waiting-…
My piece is an attempt to get people to not be excessively judgmental and hypocritical about the matter.
This post has no point at all. I think u jus went round nd round and arrived at nothing. Doesn't say anything at all. You jus wanted us 2 see ur use of grammer. You might consider reading this over again nd making it clear enough for the lay man on the street.
And your point is?